A lot of things have happened since the last post. Being a military family is never boring, never a dull moment here I can tell you that. The last week of January the base told us that they have a house for us and we should be ready to move. Our current house was up for renovation. We were excited because it is a nicer house but worried because it is winter in NY. Since the movers were going to do everything we went ahead with the move. The week of our move however a winter snowstorm hit us dropping over 6 inches of snow and another 2 of ice. If anyone has been watching the weather on the east coast that was the first of 4 snowstorms within 2.5 weeks. All of those storms, with the most recent one being today, have dropped over 30 inches of snow and have created a mess from school closings to mail deliveries. Anyhow while we were distracted with the snow and the move things with the adoption shifted into third gear.
Last week on Monday the social worker assigned to us called us and made an appointment to meet us at our home. After we scrambled with calendars and schedules we set a wednesday appointment. We were so excited about going through the next step in all this we didn’t realized that we HAD JUST moved and we had boxes upon boxes to open and pictures to hang and furniture to rearrange. In all our 9 moves we had not set up a house as fast as we did that time! We were going to be ready for the social worker.
Her name is Pamela and she was so nice. She came to our home and asked us questions…..lots and lots of questions, ranging from how were we as children and teens, to how healthy are our parents. I am going to list the questions I remember in case it may help anyone be more prepared or at least less nervous.
- Describe yourself; hobbies, activities that interest you, strengths, weaknesses.
- Now describe each other. (to include my 14 year old son)
- Tell me how you were as a child and as a teenager, your up-bringing, your family life.
- Tell me about your parents; their jobs, their backgrounds.
- Your health, any arrests, convictions, drug abuse, domestic problems etc.
She also took a tour of the house to make sure we had fire alarms, carbon monoxide alarms, basically alarms for anything that may kill us. All in all she was at our house for 1.5 hours and she told us that she had to make one more visit and she was done. We were shocked to learn that all that is required was 2 visits. The social worker also has her own fees. For the 2 visits she charged us $700. I have no frame of reference but as much as we have been paying for all this it didn’t seem too bad. Her next visit is next tuesday and fingers crossed we pass with flying colors and she goes back to write a nice report on us.
This week we also received the formal application from our placement agency in AL. This one has a lot of notarized papers and must go back with a hefty check of $6,000. Things are moving along nicely. We are so excited! Hopefully things continue to run as smoothly as they seem to be now.