Not much has happen regarding the adoption process in the last two weeks. Things appear to be slowing down at both agencies. Everyone is ‘reviewing’ something of ours somewhere. Baker Victory in NY still needs a few things so the home study can be written and certified. Villa Hope in AL, has begun doing their compilation of information and background data on us as well. We did read a draft that our social worker Pam forwarded to us. The first of many drafts apparently. I have to say, she was extremely thorough when it came to our life story. The home study document she puts together is a very detailed interpretation of our family, complete with description of our home, our childhoods and discipline methods. It also has finance information that will tell an agency (or a country in our case) that we are financially capable of providing for a child. The document is about 15 pages long, oh and full disclosure, we look amazing on paper!! I wanna be adopted by us:).
We have two training seminars on adoption that we need to complete. Both are about 5-7 hours long. Some of the information tends to be a bit repetitive and I have already had my rant about the expense for something so similar (each one is about 150$). Of course, its not like we are going to complain or rock the boat, as they say. I am not sure how the agencies work but I’m sure they can slow down our process if we become ‘that couple’. Some of it was a bit boring but I did find parts of the seminars extremely useful and informative. I learned what I should expect and prepare for when in country; things like having a pediatrician do a check up on the child, having one ready when we return to the US etc. I also enjoyed listening to an adopted child from South Korea(now an adult) talk about her experience. She talked about what helped her transition to a new culture and what helped answer some questions about her identity. We are adopting from Peru and being peruvian myself I think we have kept the culture pretty much alive in our foods, customs, traditions etc. I think we still need to be aware that the child will still feel a loss not only of their birth family but his/her country. Portions of the training are great at making you aware of the many things that a child might/will feel in the process.
On a brighter note, we have began telling family about this. We started with my husband Chris’ parents who were visiting from NC this past weekend. I was not ready to say anything yet, and don’t get me wrong we are still not telling anyone else, but I was glad we did and they were excited for us. I might tell my parents……..then again, I think i’ll wait a bit longer.