Things have slowed down to a crawl and that is very discouraging. I know that it will take a while to run the background checks for all those states we have lived in but I feel like we have not heard from the agency for a little while and that makes me nervous. I know we are not the only couple they are helping but I wish they would keep in touch and keep the communication going with how things are progressing. That would definitely make a us feel like they haven’t forgotten about us. We were fingerprinted for the state of NY on Monday so hopefully things can move a bit faster once that clears. We have also started to talk about money. How much we will need for this, how much we need to save, where are we going to move it from or borrow from and how much it sucks that there is, in fact, no money tree. Sometimes I think that with so many children needing homes in this world it is a sin that someone is making SO much money simply matching us up.
We finally mailed the initial application to our placement agency (Villa Hope). They will now start a file for us and they are just waiting to get our completed home study. They will evaluate and start a dossier which they will send to Peru in hopes that they see us fit and match us up with potential children. Oh my God just saying that made me giddy! I can’t wait until we are in that stage. Right now I can’t even see the tunnel……no I can’t even see the highway that takes you to the toll booth, that takes you to the tunnel with the proverbial light at the end.
I finally heard from the agency…….and I say finally but a) it hasn’t really been that long and b) I don’t really know how long it is suppose to take. They told me they received our application but apparently I am a moron and some papers where not fully filled out. OK they didn’t say that but that is certainly how I felt when she mentioned the little details that were missing. The one thing that surprised me was that they needed my son’s vaccination records. I guess they want to know that I am doing a good job with the one I already have:).
We are now waiting to get fingerprinted by the state of NY and medically cleared by our physician. It’s unreal to me that this is only the initial application and I have already divulged more personal info than I care to mention. I feel like I should be cleared to hear classified government secrets at this point. I complain but the truth is, that if the agency asked me to send them a bathroom selfie, I would oblige.
The agency also told me that they have successfully entered our information for a NY background check. I celebrated a little until she continued to say their in-house social worker will be contacting me about the process and fees for the other states we have lived in…..and then I cried. Between us we have 9 other states they need to check. Don’t you just love the Army.
Join the Army they said……….you will travel the world they said.
I am not sure how long it takes to get a background check, hopefully just as fast as getting your credit score check. If so I will visit a car dealership in everyone of those states, those dealers pull your credit score even before you park your car. No one said this will be easy, or fast, or inexpensive but oh boy is it worth it!
I mailed our initial application to our home study agency…..not to be confused with our placement agency, yaaaaaayy!! This went with our first painfully written check of 850 dollars, YIKES! Well thank goodness for uncle sam’s tax credit on adoptions. Well I guess I won’t thank him yet, it will be our luck that as soon as we are done with the process they stop giving those out.
Regardless, it felt good finally getting it all to the agency so we can start the home study, I even splurged for the priority shipping so it will get there faster. Baker Victory Services said that once they receive and review my application they will be in contact with the social worker assigned to our case and we can proceed. I am assuming our background check must clear and it wouldn’t hurt if my check clears as well………let’s see which one goes first, just kidding our check is good and so are we!
I am slowly but surely allowing myself to get excited about the process. For a while it just seemed overwhelming and difficult. We still have not told many people about this so even this blog is not being shared to family and friends. I think once our home study is under way and we feel like we would have information to share with them we can be more open. To tell you the truth if it was up to me I would wait as long as I can to tell our parents….say…. when we need them to babysit:) “surpriiiiseee this is your new grandchild”. I guess that won’t be nice. Well for now we just don’t want to answer questions that are still unknown to us. But maybe soon!
- When working with two agencies make 3 folders with contact person/info; 1. Home study agency papers 2. Placement agency papers 3. Paperwork to be filled out at a later date (you can get ahead doing it now)
- Keep a copy of everything you send out (in case it is lost) date it is mailed and a record of the money that is paid (for an accurate cost and tax purposes).
- Keep a journal or a blog of the process, you might wanna share this with that child in the future, or to help other potential adoptive parents.
“Adoption is not for the faint of heart” ~ Mariska Hargitay
It has only been 5 weeks since we decided to start the process of adoption and 3 weeks since we decided that we would adopt from Peru, my country of birth. We called many, many oh so many agencies and found out that only 3 agencies in the entire country work with Peru. How is that possible? Well apparently Peru is still very new in joining the Hague Convention.
Here is some information on what a Hague convention country is: http://adoption.state.gov/hague_convention/overview.php
We settled on the agency Villa Hope in Birmingham AL. We then find out that we need an agency in the state we currently live in to do the home study. We found a great social worker that has worked with military families at West Point doing home studies so we gave her a call. She works with Baker Victory Services in NY so we will be using them for that part.
Christmas day we get all the initial packets and begin to fill out paperwork. There is soooooo much paperwork. They want to know everything about your life, from your incomes to your parents age and illnesses. I guess they want them perky and healthy in case….no not in case …when they babysit:). Not true, I really don’t know why they want that info but we want a baby so I will tell them national security secrets if they ask. Yeah…..no one would ever tell me national security secrets. All it would take is 3 glasses of wine and a night with the besties:)!
Well here we are January 6 and we have notarized and filled out everything we needed to, that is including our addresses for the past 28 years. Yup, you read right, 28 years. For a military family, depending on your time in service, that could well mean 4-14 homes not to mention different countries. We both have appointments to get our medical paperwork filled out and off the packets go. Let it begin!!!